Reality-Check.

I realised.

Things were never meant to be simple, or is it?

Homosapiens no longer speak and/or listen like one, not to mention act like one.

Good begets good. Begets defined as BULLSHIT.

Elders ≠ Wise | Superior ≠ Always Right

Figuratively, "If a leopard never changes its spots" but yet "People learn from mistakes", then I dare proclaim, "Humans are near extinction due to the rise of leopards". 

Time to snap OUT of reality.

Amidst all the resentment I have towards you at this point in time...

I realised the LAW is catching up on you and JUSTICE will be served. Therefore, I rest my case! :D


RE-POST - THE AMAZING HUMAN DEFENSE MECHANISM


defense mechanism, in psychoanalytic theory, any of a group of mental processes that enables the mind to reach compromise solutions to conflicts that it is unable to resolve. The process is usually unconscious, and the compromise generally involves concealing from oneself internal drives or feelings that threaten to lower self-esteem or provoke anxiety. The concept derives from the psychoanalytic hypothesis that there are forces in the mind that oppose and battle against each other. The term was first used in Sigmund Freud’s paper The Neuro-Psychoses of Defence (1894). 


Some of the major defense mechanisms described by psychoanalysts are the following:


1. Repression is the withdrawal from consciousness of an unwanted idea, affect, or desire by pushing it down, or repressing it, into the unconscious part of the mind. An example may be found in a case of hysterical amnesia, in which the victim has performed or witnessed some disturbing act and then completely forgotten the act itself and the circumstances surrounding it.


2. Reaction formation is the fixation in consciousness of an idea, affect, or desire that is opposite to a feared unconscious impulse. A mother who bears an unwanted child, for example, may react to her feelings of guilt for not wanting the child by becoming extremely solicitous and overprotective to convince both the child and herself that she is a good mother.


3. Projection is a form of defense in which unwanted feelings are displaced onto another person, where they then appear as a threat from the external world. A common form of projection occurs when an individual, threatened by his own angry feelings, accuses another of harbouring hostile thoughts.


4. Regression is a return to earlier stages of development and abandoned forms of gratification belonging to them, prompted by dangers or conflicts arising at one of the later stages. A young wife, for example, might retreat to the security of her parents’ home after her first quarrel with her husband.


5. Sublimation is the diversion or deflection of instinctual drives, usually sexual ones, into noninstinctual channels. Psychoanalytic theory holds that the energy invested in sexual impulses can be shifted to the pursuit of more acceptable and even socially valuable achievements, such as artistic or scientific endeavours.


6. Denial is the conscious refusal to perceive that painful facts exist. In denying latent feelings of homosexuality or hostility, or mental defects in one’s child, an individual can escape intolerable thoughts, feelings, or events.


7. Rationalization is the substitution of a safe and reasonable explanation for the true (but threatening) cause of behaviour. Psychoanalysts emphasize that the use of a defense mechanism is a normal part of personality function and not in and of itself a sign of psychological disorder. Various psychological disorders, however, can be characterized by an excessive or rigid use of these defenses.

I have been enlightened, again.

IT'S NIGHTS LIKE THIS THAT MAKES ME WANNA GIVE UP ON MYSELF...


Before anyone reads on -  There are definitely more misfortunes/hardships/sob stories going on in the world(i.e. flood in BKK, dead bodies in Bedok Reservoir, death of Steve Jobs) that are more noteworthy of asking, "Why God why?". And what I'm about to type is not a matter of questioning faith (or is it?) but truthfully, it's coming to a point where I wish to say declare, "This has to stop!".


Have you ever left your comfort zone (even though it was never an obligation) to lend more than just a helping hand to someone, but in turn, get sucker-punched right in your face?


Try convincing yourself to leave your tentage in the midst of a heavy thunderstorm, getting all drenched up just to help acquaintances get their shelter up, but in return get accused by them for something you didn't do, which led to many dire moments which I'd rather not talk about anymore...


Have you ever given your all for friend(s) / loved one(s) / establishment(s) but only to realize it's not worth the effort as they will only turn their back away from you without even considering what you may have done for them?


When is it ever good enough when one is being blamed upon with non-existent issues? Why would you take my kindness and friendship for granted by leaving me to do your job? Just because you know that I'm the kind who "would-clean-up-your-mess-and-not-choose-to-ignore-it" does not mean that I condone your actions lack of actions!!!

Have you ever planned every detail of an event / party only to be criticized or questioned for the choice of dining venue or the average spending for the event?

Every reason to justify why I'm definitely telling myself not to EVER (as much as I can) plan anything for anyone (as many as I can) again. You can kiss my white ass and plan every other shit that comes along the way and tell me how long you can last. I probably lasted till as long as RECENTLY since ages ago....

Have you ever volunteered guiding someone who was deemed as an outcast by most, gave your all to help, but all you see from him are shadows of those who deemed him as outcast but none of yourself?

I've never once treated you unfairly even though I knew you may have intentionally or unintentionally stepped on other's toes along the way. I may have done my best to ease you into the group in the past despite the negative environment, but now, every turn I make, every step I take, I see you as my stumbling block, directly or indirectly. Is it a question of maturity or sensibility?

Have you ever considered every step of the way for the benefit and welfare of a TEAM, not forgetting the sacrifices made, but only to be made a fool by the same group of people?


I can sit there and listen to your troubles. I can give chance after chance knowing it will probably be better for you with that CHANCE. I can give without asking for returns. I'd be glad if there were any returns, who wouldn't be? BUT, I can't take it lying down when 1) all of the above are not only taken for granted but 2) I have to bear the consequences of your reckless and immature actions while 3) seeing you reap the benefits of my fruits of labour.


What I can't seem to understand is, why do such things to someone who goes out of the way to fight for you or stand by you when no one else has or would have done. You can take away all the credit from me, I have no issues with that. BUT WHY DO I HAVE TO BEAR THE UNNECESSARY SUCKER-PUNCH DEALT BY THE VERY PEOPLE WHOM I'VE INTENDED TO HELP IN THE FIRST PLACE?!
(Now go read the top again...I'm still choosing to give up on myself and not YOU! How freaking dumb can I get?)

- Why do I always feel like the preyed zebra?

A friend in need is a friend indeed. But what if you're only a friend when others are in need?
Consequently, these people would just vanish into thin air.

Moving on, there are some things that 99% of the people in the world would turn a blind eye to, and 1% that would feel obligated to do otherwise. As much as I hate to admit, the 1% of us complete this world.

If a picture paints a thousand words...

 

An illustration, accompanied with words, makes more than a picture. Thank you guys!

Days like this that keeps me going...

 

As much as people may turn their back against the service industry, especially in Singapore, it's the satisfaction I get from delightful guests who are warm and appreciative that keeps me going!

Testimonials, as per above, that remind myself that despite those that give service or consumers a bad name, it's not turning into a stereotype that demoralises and discourages any individual from giving their best.

Alas, time to look forward to a couple of short trips overseas to rejuvenate and revitalise!

3 More Days...


And it feels like I really deserve a long long holiday, some time off to take my mind off things + to re-evaluate.

Remember this day...

For we are being crowned "Best Service Establishment"! :D

Some are just born to create trouble; others to clean up the mess made by the former.

Don't you think so?

Vote For 10 Years of Great Service!

As the deadline to CanYouServe's biggest tip jar competition draws near to a close (this Sunday), we hope that more friends and fans of BROTH, especially those whom we have served and impressed upon over these years to "lend a helping hand" by voting for us and extending the lead at the top of the chart!

To vote, 1) Simply click on the following link: www.canyouserve.com.sg

2) "Like" the page (you will need to login to your FB account), before scrolling to the bottom of the "Biggest Tip Jar" tab's page where you will find the voting form.

3) For the establishment, key in BROTH Singapore Pte Ltd, followed by the reason why you're voting for us! It is that simple! :D

As it is right now, we are 34 votes ahead of Pigeonhole but anything can happen between now till Sunday and we are certainly keeping our fingers crossed! :X

TO THE WORLD'S GREATEST SWEETHEART

Happy 26th birthday to you, dia'rie!

You've been the greatest, undisputedly. Love you!

THE AMAZING HUMAN DEFENSE MECHANISM

defense mechanism, in psychoanalytic theory, any of a group of mental processes that enables the mind to reach compromise solutions to conflicts that it is unable to resolve. The process is usually unconscious, and the compromise generally involves concealing from oneself internal drives or feelings that threaten to lower self-esteem or provoke anxiety. The concept derives from the psychoanalytic hypothesis that there are forces in the mind that oppose and battle against each other. The term was first used in Sigmund Freud’s paper The Neuro-Psychoses of Defence (1894).

Some of the major defense mechanisms described by psychoanalysts are the following:

1. Repression is the withdrawal from consciousness of an unwanted idea, affect, or desire by pushing it down, or repressing it, into the unconscious part of the mind. An example may be found in a case of hysterical amnesia, in which the victim has performed or witnessed some disturbing act and then completely forgotten the act itself and the circumstances surrounding it.

2. Reaction formation is the fixation in consciousness of an idea, affect, or desire that is opposite to a feared unconscious impulse. A mother who bears an unwanted child, for example, may react to her feelings of guilt for not wanting the child by becoming extremely solicitous and overprotective to convince both the child and herself that she is a good mother.

3. Projection is a form of defense in which unwanted feelings are displaced onto another person, where they then appear as a threat from the external world. A common form of projection occurs when an individual, threatened by his own angry feelings, accuses another of harbouring hostile thoughts.

4. Regression is a return to earlier stages of development and abandoned forms of gratification belonging to them, prompted by dangers or conflicts arising at one of the later stages. A young wife, for example, might retreat to the security of her parents’ home after her first quarrel with her husband.

5. Sublimation is the diversion or deflection of instinctual drives, usually sexual ones, into noninstinctual channels. Psychoanalytic theory holds that the energy invested in sexual impulses can be shifted to the pursuit of more acceptable and even socially valuable achievements, such as artistic or scientific endeavours.

6. Denial is the conscious refusal to perceive that painful facts exist. In denying latent feelings of homosexuality or hostility, or mental defects in one’s child, an individual can escape intolerable thoughts, feelings, or events.

7. Rationalization is the substitution of a safe and reasonable explanation for the true (but threatening) cause of behaviour.

Psychoanalysts emphasize that the use of a defense mechanism is a normal part of personality function and not in and of itself a sign of psychological disorder. Various psychological disorders, however, can be characterized by an excessive or rigid use of these defenses.

I have been enlightened.

P.S. When I was reading the excerpt, shivers went down my spine (with no relation to self).

YOU HAVE TO BE CRUEL TO BE KIND.

Do you think that the above is a necessary evil? :/